Bye, Bye Birdie

Well, there is nothing like a little shame to help one let go of her attachment to a certain bird-themed China pattern. My loving and supportive Monday morning group, after viewing the link to the Chirp China pattern, let me know their thoughts. What sticks in my mind is Jro commenting that he thought I was "dumbing down" in attaching to the Chirp. When I mentioned that it was Lenox China, the room errupted in what I like to call "shaming guffaws." Said shaming guffaws were loud and unanimous enough to quench any remaining flame burning in my heart for the Chirp China. It's over and it's done.

I called J to tell him that Chirp was dead and buried for real and we discussed other patterns. To satify my need for color and pizazz, as well as J's more subtle aesthetic, we are now leaning towards the "Library Lane" by Kate Spade. Because I am pretty suseptible to shame, it's likely that I will change my mind again when I am told that this too is too low brow! Ah, to be at the whimsy of what others think of me and my taste. Maybe now is a good time to make peace with the fact that lots of people, even people I love and almost respect, may disagree with my choices and my taste. While it's in my best interest and the best interest of my marriage to negotiate with J on items we will share and use for the good of the household, I am not so sure how adaptive changing every time someone offers me an opinion is. We'll see. With all that is on my to-do list, I am not sure adding "Change my character and personality" is a gentle way to proceed.